I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all! It takes courage to reach out, and everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore the sources of your distress, identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce anxiety and uncertainty, and build new communication skills and boundaries to support your goals.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
Our friends and family love us and want us to feel better~ such a wonderful feeling! Unfortunately, sometimes what we really need is to be heard and our feelings validated rather than be told how to fix the problem. They love us, they want us to feel better, and their advice is based in that love and biased by that love. I can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you hear your own thoughts.
Maybe I just need medication?
Medication can work well when distress has a physiological component to it, such as hormonal imbalances. Physically it may help you feel better, yet it doesn’t provide new ways of communicating, deepen understanding of your thoughts, or support building new relationships and healthy emotional connections. Medication and therapy often work hand-in-hand to help you physically feel like your best self so you are able to learn new ways to interact as your best self. You’re then ready for relationships and connections that leave you fulfilled.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
It starts with a phone call! We’ll chat for a few minutes about what is happening for you. If this feels like a comfortable match for you, we can schedule your first appointment.
How long will it take?
Great question! There isn’t a timeline you have to follow. We work on your goals at your pace. Sometimes people have a specific problem to work through and finish quickly. Sometimes goals are more multi-faceted and complex. A slower pace allows for untangling past hurts and rebuilding emotions and communications skills.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Therapy can be tough at times, no doubt! It’s a process that can feel worse before it feels better. It’s like falling down and skinning your knee. The physical wound needs to be cleaned out so it can heal in a healthy way. Cleaning out your emotional wounds looks like processing past hurts/traumas, changing communication patterns that lead to emotion damage, and developing positive thinking patterns. When we do this together healthy new feelings and patterns can grow. Being open to the process and willing to embrace the vulnerability of facing the feelings that scare you will is a place to support your own healthy growth and success.