Systemic Affair Recovery Therapy

Infidelity can leave a relationship feeling shattered, broken beyond repair, it’s integrity weakened and without the strength formed in it’s creation. Kintsugi is the Japanese art of putting pieces back together with gold. Gold is used to bind the broken pieces and serves as a reminder of staying optimistic and celebrating how flawed pieces can come together in beauty and new energy and purpose. Systemic Affair Recovery Therapy (SART) by Talal H. Alsaleem, LMFT, is a relationship version of Kintsugi. In this style of infidelity therapy, we work together through seven milestones of rebuilding a relationship after the trust and integrity of the commitment has been shattered. We examine the broken pieces and put them together again with a deeper understanding of what transpired, why it happened, and how the gold uniting the pieces into their original purpose adds beauty and strength to the brokenness.

The seven milestones of SART support healing the trauma of the infidelity as fundamental to identifying the path forward. Milestones include how to create a supportive environment for healing, acknowledging how the infidelity has changed the relationship, determining how to move forward, and creating a sustainable action plan to reach the goal. 

Based upon Alsaleem’s best selling book in.fi.del.i.ty, this intentional process will help a couple see how infidelity can be the best worst thing to happen in a relationship.