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    The Gottman Method for Couples Therapy

    A Research-Based Path to Stronger Relationships

    Lasting love doesn’t just happen—it’s built, moment by moment, with care, communication, and emotional safety. The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is rooted in decades of research into what helps relationships thrive—and what puts them at risk.

    This approach focuses on identifying your relationship’s unique strengths and challenges, then creating a personalized plan to support growth, connection, and repair.

    It all begins with a thorough and compassionate assessment process, including:

    • A joint relationship interview

    • Individual conversations with each partner

    • The Gottman Relationship Checkup (an in-depth online survey)

    • A collaborative treatment planning session based on your unique results

    From there, we begin building your toolkit—together.

    Using your personalized plan, you’ll learn the Gottman communication skills that support stronger friendship, deeper emotional intimacy, and healthy conflict management. Through structured conversations, we’ll practice how to:

    • Bring up small issues before they turn into major conflicts

    • Navigate tough conversations without blame or shutdown

    • Repair misunderstandings in ways that feel respectful and lasting

    • Grow empathy and validation as daily habits of love

    These aren’t just “therapy topics”—they’re real skills you can use every day to strengthen your bond. In fact, they form the foundation of the Gottmans’ “6 Hours to a Better Relationship”—small weekly habits that can make a big difference in how you feel connected.

    What to Expect from Gottman Method Couples Therapy

    At Embrace Relationship Counseling, I guide couples through a structured yet compassionate process rooted in the Gottman Method—a research-based approach designed to strengthen relationships by enhancing communication, deepening connection, and fostering mutual understanding.

    1. Comprehensive Assessment

    Our journey begins with a thorough assessment to understand your relationship’s unique dynamics:

    • Joint Session: We start with a conversation together to discuss your relationship history and current challenges.

    • Individual Sessions: Each partner has a one-on-one confidential session to share personal perspectives and experiences.

    • Gottman Relationship Checkup: An online questionnaire that evaluates various aspects of your relationship, providing insights into strengths and areas for growth.

    • Feedback Session: We review the assessment results collaboratively, setting personalized goals and outlining a tailored plan for therapy.

    2. Active Treatment

    With a clear plan in place, we engage in sessions focused on building and practicing essential relationship skills:

    • Enhancing Friendship: Developing deeper emotional intimacy and appreciation.

    • Managing Conflict: Learning to navigate disagreements constructively and respectfully.

    • Creating Shared Meaning: Exploring shared values, goals, and rituals that strengthen your bond.

    Homework assignments are provided to reinforce these skills between sessions, promoting continuous growth and connection.

    3. Phasing Out

    As you and your partner become more confident in applying these skills, sessions are gradually spaced out. This phase supports your autonomy while ensuring you feel supported as you integrate new patterns into daily life.

    4. Conclusion of Therapy

    When your goals have been met and positive changes are sustained, we collaboratively decide to conclude regular sessions. This milestone celebrates your progress and the resilience you’ve built together.

    5. Ongoing Support

    Periodic check-ins are available to help maintain your relationship’s health, address any emerging challenges, and reinforce the tools you’ve acquired, ensuring long-term success.

    Please note: This overview represents the typical structure of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Individual experiences may vary based on specific needs and circumstances. I encourage open communication to tailor the process to best support you.